First, I learned that I could make my own inadequacies and frustrations go right, so the obstacles to accomplishing my own happiness were much reduced and then gone. And then, to my wonderous surprise, I found I could learn to do this for others, and truly help make a better world. I have the most wonderful friends, and the most effective social reform group in the world, and a life far different than what originally seemed "pre-ordained". Hallelujah - I can help .