For me the biggest win that I've gotten from Scientology in recognizing when someone is trying to make me smaller - less able, less confident, less happy.

     It can be through small things - a comment, a look, even a joke; or sometimes much larger like when someone pounds away at every opportunity. What I'm talking about is a different from everyday interaction like thoughtless remark that could hurt someone's feelings. The difference is being able to recognize the intention behind it and understanding how I feel - like having a confused feeling even a bit disoriented and not being able to get it off my mind. Just feeling bad, feeling less. Now I KNOW when all this is going on and I don't get pulled into it. I'm more causative and I find it all humorous. So now when someone intentionally starts pushing buttons, it doesn't effect me. And again, as I have so often since my first introduction to Scientology I realized that I am truly causative over how I feel I perceive life around me and how I respond!